Do u think shes right?

5th time i been on here about this friend she was an alcoholic(shes been sober for 3wks and doin well which is gr8)for the last yr me and my partner have been helping her lending her money,having her kids whilst she was unwell things were awful for her ovr christmas her husband found out and is now helping her recover i have listened to her for hours picked up her kids cos she was drunk now shes sober she has literally blanked me i sent her a txt saying is all ok and she sent this back;i distanced myself cos more than once u(me) have said how much u have had to put up with me, i said to her a couple of times that she needs to offload on her husband she was hiding it from him and not on me as it was upsetting and then she was saying how gr8 her friend mandy was and i said well she doesnt know u just off load on me. i did choose to help her but now i feel like i am the bad guy shes says she dont like having anyone tell me what they do for me,and cos of this shes distancing herself?